the schedule-less struggle

In my career, there is no set schedule, which is both a blessing and a curse.  They don’t teach you about the work-life balance in Real Estate School.  Last week was rough, one of those “my house is a mess, my car is on E, my fridge is empty, I forgot to do this, I forgot to do that” overwhelming “how am I supposed to do it all?” kind of weeks.  I felt like I hadn’t been prioritizing my life very well.  I wasn’t making time for the things that matter, my Mom, friends, family, you get the idea. I vented my frustrations to two of my good friends while we were sitting and chatting on the floor (she made promise of a couch soon) of Kel’s new studio (stay tuned for more on this.) Friends, they get it, and they know how real the struggle can be sometimes because they have struggles too, we all do. I am blessed to have a tribe of friends that are there for me no matter what.  Friends that have never given up on me even after I’ve made up some excuse for the 300th time as to why I can’t do something, friends that tell you like it is. Those are the best kind of friends in life.  After emptying my brain, Kel looked at me and asked, “now what?”  and to be honest, that thought had never crossed my mind.  She was right, now what, what am I going to do?  I was spending so much energy focusing on what was going wrong that I did not realize that I was the only thing standing in my way (chapter five in The Subtle Art, but I wasn’t there yet.)  I could choose to continue to exhaust energy complaining, or I could choose to refocus and do something about it.  I chose the latter.  When I got home I grabbed a piece of paper and a pen and broke my life down into five categories: my work, my home, my blog, community involvement and me time.  I listed out what action items need to happen each week, reoccurring appointments and meetings, things that slip through the cracks when life gets busy (like laundry, ugh) and made sure to keep some “white space” for flexibility.  I blocked time for each of these things and created a weekly schedule that allows time for me to focus on growing my business, growing as a person and improving my relationships with my family and friends.  I was very surprised to see how seamlessly it all came together.  Does this mean that I can only eat lunch at specific times?  No, but it is a good guide to follow in my everyday life and there is enough flexibility that if, no, when something comes up, everything can easily fall back into place.  I’d love to hear how you balance the chaos of your day to day life!  Feel free to share in the comments below, and as always thanks for stopping by!  

“There is a simple realization from which all personal improvement and growth emerges.  This is the realization that we, individually, are responsible for everything in our lives, no matter the external circumstances.” Mark Manson, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
 

 my new week

my new week

 sometimes you just need a good floor chat

sometimes you just need a good floor chat