YOU DO YOU

 
 

Lately,  I have found myself having conversations with friends about how much we let the thoughts, opinions and actions of others dictate our happy.  I feel this has gotten worse due in large part to social media these days (remember when it was all babies, puppies and cute.)  Society already puts so much pressure on us to be just as good, if not better than the next person, so why do we do it to ourselves?  Why do we find ourselves striving to be better than the next person, better than neighbor with the perfect yard, the mom with perfectly groomed kids, better than the blogger with 78,000 followers, better than Becky with the good hair even if it means losing your true self.  Why do we find ourselves complaining about things that a month, a day, or even an hour from now will have zero impact on our life?   Last week a friend of mine posted a book she was reading (for the sake of language-ish, I’ll just tag it here.)  I knew I needed to read it immediately, and apparently several of her friends did as well, which is much of the reason I find myself sharing this post today, because I know that I am not alone in this struggle.  Why do we let what others do and what others say take up so much space in our brains?  Most of us already live at 100 mph from the time we wake up until the time we go to bed.  Do we really need to add to that chaos by letting these thoughts into our minds so frequently?  No.  You do you.  When I first started my blog, I found myself racking my brain trying to think of things I thought readers might be interested in.  It wasn’t long before I realized that this blog is not about pleasing others, it is about filling my cup, sharing what I want to share and not feeling pressured to please people or attract readers with my posts.  But why do we let what other people think have such an impact on what we do?  How do we stop?  And for those of you with littles, how do you teach them to ignore the ideals and opinions of the world around them and teach them to be true to themselves?  How do we teach the youth in this world that the amount of likes your post gets, the amount of friends you have, the amount of views your story has really mean nothing in the grand scheme of life?  I don’t know the answer to this, but I do know that a good place to start would be with ourselves.  The only thing that matters is YOU, the relationships you have and the life you build for yourself.  The older I get, the more I realize that at the end of the day the only thing that matters is the quality of the relationships you have, not the quantity.  Stop wasting energy on negative thoughts, live in the moment, be present and do you, whatever that looks like to you is all that matters.